Note to Self: Love Your Husband

Note-to-self-ThornAfter our post last week on the calling of husbands to love his wife, it is the wives’ turn to be reminded of her calling in relation to her husband.

When you read Joe Thorn’s brief “note to self”, I believe you will see your calling in a new light and be renewed in your commitment also to model Jesus in your marriage.

Begin by reading Eph.5:22-24.

Dear Self,

It is your calling and privilege to represent Christ to your husband in a way that he will see in no one else. You are called to submit to his godly leadership, support him in his leadership, and help him become what God desires.

Your occasional thoughts of the smallness of this calling demonstrate that you have not yet grasped the beauty of being your husband’s ‘help-mate.’ Thinking of yourself as your husband’s ‘helper’ is not demeaning of small. It is actually a glorious position, and one that Jesus himself knew well.

Before his ascension, Jesus told his followers that he would ‘give you another helper.’ (John 14:16). He spoke of the Holy Spirit, but do not miss the point that the Holy Spirit is ‘another helper’ – one like Jesus. Jesus did not have a problem thinking of himself as a helper, or even a helper to sinful men. This was his calling, the reason he was sent by the Father – to serve, help, and save sinners.

Being considered the help of your husband means that he cannot succeed without you. He needs you to help him become the man God has designed him to be. Your role is reflected beautifully in the gospel, and you get to represent Jesus as ‘helper’ to your husband in a way that no other person will, for no one else is called to this position.

…You are called to love your husband and represent Christ and the gospel to him. This means praising his hard work and expressing thanks for his working to provide for his family. It means doing him good and not evil (Prov.31:12) and speaking honorably of him in public.

Taken from Chap.17 “Love Your Husband” (found in Part Two, “The Gospel and Others”) in Note to Self: The Discipline of Preaching to Yourself by Joe Thorn (Crossway, 2011), pp.71-72.